Being A Hypnotist And Practicing Self Hypnosis

Hypnotist as a young man my gaze was focused on this job title. I was amazed, intrigued and thought that it looked like just the right title for me. So whats it like being a Hypnotist? And what does one do on a typical day? Well let me explain.

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Being a Hypnotist is great and wild horses would have to drag me away from this profession as I love it so much. Every day I get to help and work with some truly interesting people, this means that everyday is a new adventure. I will never tire as long as I can help someone to achieve their dreams.

And the best part about being a Hypnotist is that I am able to be with these same people as they achieve what they perceived to be the impossible for them.

One of my passions is to teach others Hypnosis and how to become their own Hypnotist through learning Self Hypnosis. Learning Self Hypnosis is a very easy and beneficial process to go through and you can really achieve amazing results with just knowing the basics. When you learn Self Hypnosis yourself you are in effect your own Hypnotist and day by day as you practice you will get better and better.

Self Hypnosis is basically a means of letting your subconscious mind communicate with your conscious mind. We can only establish contact with our subconscious minds, when we relax and let our conscious mind take a back seat. Our subconscious mind has immense powers, and it can be mastered with routine practice. Once the programming has been done, our little computer functions automatically on the responses it has stored in early practice sessions.

With the help of self-hypnosis, you can successfully alter habits such as smoking, nervousness, drug or alcohol addiction. Similarly when it comes to personality development, use of self hypnosis can make you a more confident and assertive person, it can instil a positive self image, become a performance booster and even help make your life a better place to be in.

Research suggests that we only use about 10% of our subconsciouss total potential. So just imagine if we could put into the use rest 90% how different life could be!

What are you waiting for?

Now you can learn to be your own Hypnotist.

Richard MacKenzie is Britain's leading Hypnotist - He also has a successful range of Hypnosis Downloads

Eastern Buddhism

Learning the Meaning Behind Dreams for a Better Life

Can Your Dreams Help You Succeed In Life?

Dreams - we all have them. But are they really significant in the real world? Many people do believe that remembering and learning to interpret your dreams can help you solve problems in the waking world, confront and conquer repressed feelings and issues that you avoid or are afraid to deal with in the waking world, and can help you to become the best person that you can be.

Since the beginning of recorded history, dreams have played a significant role in the lives of many people. Military, political, and spiritual decisions have been made because of a dream. In some tribes, the crossover from childhood to manhood includes isolating oneself from the rest of the tribe and communing with the spirit world through dreams. The dreams are believed to reveal to the young man what his purpose in this life wi1202ll be - the path that he should take for his journey through his life on earth.

Dreams are the brain's way of sorting all of the information taken in during your waking hours. While we may be faintly aware of things going on in the background, the brain only focuses on what is of the most significance at the moment - everything else is stored away to be dealt with at a later time - and that occurs in our dreams.

Dreams can be a way for you to take a close look at yourself and learn just exactly what makes you tick - what your true desires are. Dreams can also provide you with a way to face the things that you do not like about yourself and learn to change these aspects of your personality into something that is positive and more productive in your waking life.

Some people base all of their personal, business, and social decisions on what they learn from interpreting their dreams. They learn to manipulate their dreams in order to focus on decisions in their lives that need to be made.

Sigmund Freud, one of the greatest minds of the 19th century, revolutionized he study of dreams. He called dreams the "royal road to the unconscious". Freud's initial assessment of dreams was that all dreams were of a sexual nature. While he later gave up that theory, he clung to the theory that dreams are a wish fulfillment - a way for our conscious minds to become aware of what our deepest desires may be as well as our deepest fears.

Carl Jung studied under Freud. His views on dreams differed quite dramatically - to the point that they parted company and went their separate ways in their studies of dreams. Jung believed that dreams were more spiritual in nature. Like Freud, Jung believed that dreams were a "window to our unconscious" - a way of communicating and acquainting ourselves with the unconscious. Through our dreams, we can explore our true feelings and find solutions to problems we are facing in our waking life. Jung believed that our dreams "serve to guide the waking self to achieve wholeness" - a unity of body, spirit, and mind.

Your dreams can help you bring about a unity of body, spirit, and mind by showing you the path in life that will lead to happiness. Many times we may take a job because the pay is good, the benefits are good, and the "social status" we are searching for can be obtained through this job. But, if the job does not make us happy - if the job is not the career that we truly desire - is this keeping us from feeling successful? In many cases, the answer is yes.

Being successful means different things to different people. But to most people, being successful means that we are achieving our goals in a personal, professional, and social aspect. Your dreams can actually help you on your journey to success. Dreams allow you to explore your true desires and once your true desires are identified, you can begin the task of achieving them. Dreams can help you face aspects of your personality that you may not like - and once you have faced them, you have the power of changing these things about yourself and becoming the best person that you can be.

Throughout the history of man, even during the days of the Bible, dreams have played a significant role. God spoke to many through their dreams. Many people have been warned of medical problems in their dreams - and in many cases were able to make changes that helped them avoid the medical problem. Dreams are way to create a unity in mind, body, and spirit - thus creating a way for us to achieve success in our lives. Dreams are one of the free resources available to help us choose the path in life that will fulfill all of our desires.

Tom Houston writes on a wide variety of topics. To learn more about the meaning behind dreams visit http://www.meaningbehinddreams.com/ for a free email course.

Six Steps To A Successful Life

Build Up Your Self-Esteem, Don't Allow Others To Put You Down

Feeling lousy about oneself is part and puzzle to some people who have low self-esteem. But if you dwell on negative feelings regularly, then you may be experiencing low self-esteem. Such a person dwells in self-doubt, guilt, anger and embarrassment. A person suffering from low self-esteem criticizes himself and passes comments like, I should not have, why do I act so stupidly? etc. There are some school of thought that says, if you keep thinking along the lines of I am stupid all the time, then your mind would tend to prove yourself right by making you act in such a way.

We are all different by nature. No one person is exactly the same as the other. If you focus on being low in esteem then you would have difficulty in making or keeping friends. If being easily discouraged, and moody is part of your routine, this may put down those around you and you may also have a difficult time in solving your own problems. You may even have the fear of new opportunities in life or move on into your future. If you ask, can I not get out of this pattern? the answer is a definite yes, you can.

Try not to base your understanding about yourself by other peoples opinion about you. Human beings tend to be opinionated, and if we live our lives depending on other peoples opinion about us, we will be hurt most of the time.

This is one main reason why some have a good self-esteem and others lack the same.

Here we give you a few tips that would help boost your self-esteem:

1 Learn to love yourself. Self-esteem is developed only by self-love. The self-love is not being selfish or self-centred but is the ability to appreciate oneself, being able to look at your own flaws and laugh over it sometimes and move on.

2.Self-complement works like a magic. Just look into the mirror and tell yourself that you are pretty looking or you are nice or any other nice statement about yourself. That works wonders!

3.Dress up but not over dress to kill but make yourself look prettier or smarter. You could get a haircut, buy a new dress or do whatever that will make you feel like a new person, and thus giving yourself more confidence.

4.Make yourself physically fit and trim. This will improve your poise and presence. Keeping fit will also help you to be more positive and less tire.

5.Make a list of all your positive qualities and know that you are unique and there is not another carbon copy like you.

6.Plan to do at least one good deed a day. This will make you see your generosity and kindness thus bring happiness to others and yourself too.

7.Travel to new places and meet new people. You may discover that many people out there do not know themselves.

8.Pay compliments to a stranger but not flatter, be genuine in your compliments and see how happy he or she feels. In return this will make you feel better.

9.More importantly, stay away from those who insult you or put you down. Be among those who are positive and yet genuine about caring for each other. Treat others like you want to be treated.

Always remember that no one born perfect and that should make you realize that you are not a worthless person. So try to see the truth and believe that you are unique in your own way. So no one is perfect enough to put you down or hurt your self-esteem unless you allow them.

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Gamy Rachel has obtained I.T.E.C (UK) Diploma in Diploma in Anatomay Physiology and Diploma in Aromatherapy. Also a home based business entrepreneur. There are more Self-Development and Self-Help articles at my website, I welcome you to visit me at http://inspireyou-success.makehomeprofits.com/

Jesus Christ

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites,16D3 and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrong5A8doer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forgiveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of theGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

Get free information, watch videos and purchase books, CDs and downloads at http://www.Goodfinding.com.

Law Of Attraction Explained

The Next Election Will Be About Fear

Everything built up will fall, and all that falls will rise again - this could be called the cycle of existence. When things are about to fall in this cycle, there are premonitions that wash through our hearts, and the premonitions have definite signs:

We lose our Generosity:

We become increasingly out for ourselves, because we are afraid. Earlier in our history, we were fearless; we would give the shirt off our back to a neighbor in need even if it was the last shirt we had. We really cared for each other. But now, we can't count on help from our neighbors. It all began many years ago when we allowed the homeless to fend for themselves, and we guiltily looked the other way. We didn't even realize that we were becoming fearful.

"Others are my main concern. When I notice something of mine, I steal it and give it to others."

- Shantideva

We lose our Principles:

We can no longer define our principles. Whatever is required to meet our goals seems to be our morals now. And our goals...? To get as much as we can before someone else does. It all stems from fear, and we will vote for the one who promises to allay the greatest number of our fears, whether those fears are economic, religious, or political. We look to our leaders to do this for us, because we no longer trust ourselves to make a stand for what we believe. We can't even grasp right from wrong anymore; it all gets distorted beyond our comprehension.

1. Avoid killing, or harming any living thing.

2. Avoid stealing -- taking what is not yours to take.

3. Avoid sexual irresponsibility, which for m5B4onks and nuns means celibacy.

4. Avoid lying, or any hurtful speech.

5. Avoid alcohol and drugs which diminish clarity of consciousness.

- Buddhist precepts

We lose our Patience

When things don't go our way, we get angry; we can't accept the fact that we have problems. Problems are part of existence, and existence is conflict, but we can't see this, and we believe that existence should be easy. But it's not. So, because we don't understand, we get angry; we try to make existence bow to our wishes. Then we blame others for our problems.

"The Greatest Prayer is patience."

- Buddha

We lose our Resolve

"It is not good to begin many different works, saying 'This looks good; that looks good', touching this, touching that, and not succeeding in any of them. If you do not generate great desires but aim at what is fitting, you can actualize the corresponding potencies and become an expert in that. With success, the power or imprint of that practice is generated."

- The Dalai Lama

We lose our Wisdom

One sign is when, as a society, we begin thinking that we are infallible, that nothing can go wrong anymore because we have control - this is a sure sign that the fall is about to happen - we lose our wisdom.

"The mind is everything. What you think you become."

- Buddha

We lose our Compassion

Our love is only one side of a two-sided coin, the other side be5B4ing hatred. We love ours, but hate theirs. True compassion is unconditional love. Conditional love cannot help but have anger as its companion.

"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."

- Buddha

We lose our Truthfulness

Fear drives us to do whatever is necessary to secure ourselves, including lying. The entire world is becoming a used car lot, and we are either the customers being swindled, or the salesman doing the swindling. Whether it is mortgage companies, religious leaders, or politicians. It is all becoming untruthful.

"Three things cannot be hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth."

- Buddha

We lose our Composure

Whatever happens in the world cycle will arise and pass. Governments, movements, and politicians will come and go, but your own actions will remain in your heart eternally.

"The whole secret of existence is to have no fear. Never fear what will become of you, depend on no one. Only the moment you reject all help are you freed."

- Buddha

E. Raymond Rock of Fort Myers, Florida is cofounder and principal teacher at the Southwest Florida Insight Center, http://www.SouthwestFloridaInsightCent474er.com His twenty-eight years of meditation experience has taken him across four continents, including two stopovers in Thailand where he practiced in the remote northeast forests as an ordained Theravada Buddhist monk. His book, A Year to Enlightenment (Career Press/New Page Books) is now available at major bookstores and online retailers. Visit http://www.AYearToEnlightenment.com

Alexander Graham Bell

Your Belief Systems Are In Control

The following is an exercise, or process, you can use to explore the depths of your being. It is an exercise to discover your belief systems-what you believe to be true about yourself, about God, about life.

All of your actions are rooted in your belief system. Although most of your beliefs were formed as a child, they are in fact a choice. If you do not like what you believe, you can change it. As an adult, you have full control of your beliefs. In order to change, however, you must take a long, scrutinizing look at your particular belief structure.

Probe closely into your childhood beliefs. Look for the strong messages you received as a child. You may not yet realize that these strong messages usually constitute a major portion of your core belief structure and hold an incredible amount of power. Write these beliefs, or messages, down on paper in a list form. Keep the sentences short for easy reading. Again, you are searching for the core or foundation of a belief, not the philosophy behind it. After you have completed your list, write down what you would rather believe, what you would rather have heard as a child. This is the time to be co-creative and to use your imagination to construct a list that is ideal. Create the perfect God in your mind and on the paper-a belief system that will support you, love you, and work for you, not against you. There are no rules, except that you do this exercise in its entirety.

The following is a composite of the common belief statements I hear from my clients:

Common Beliefs about God from Childhood

1. God is external, lives in heaven, and is separate from myself.

2. God is male and has male characteristics.

3. God has lots of rules. I had better not break a rule or I will be punished.

4. God does not always give me what I want. I have to deserve it, and if I mess up, He will hold it against me.

5. I can only pray for the will of God. If my prayer does not line up with His will, my prayer will not be answered.

6. I am selfish if I pray for myself and God does not like it when I do. Besides, I am too unworthy to pray for myself.

7. God punishes me and withholds my prayers to teach me a lesson. I de5B4serve hard lessons.

8. God gets disappointed in my behavior.

9. God has human feelings such as anger, disappointment, revenge, and judgment.

10. There is only one way to God and heaven, and that is through Christianity.

11. All things in the Bible are true in the literal sense.

12. I need to be respectful of God. If I do not pray "right," my prayers will not be answered.

13. God watches over me with a critical eye, seeing all the things I do. He waits for me to mess up, so that he can teach me another lesson.

14. It will be difficult to enter heaven if I do not keep God first and follow the rules.

15. I deserve to have it tough in life because I have done lots of bad things.

16. Mommy and Daddy say that God will not like me if I lie, cheat, steal, or do not brush my teeth.

17. If I do not believe just the way I am taught, I will burn in hell.

18. God is strict, but it is because I am undeserving and he is trying to teach me to be good.

19. Even though I am struggling financially, it is wrong to pray for money.

20. If I have money, I should give most of it away in order to show how grateful I am.

21. God disapproves of sex and shakes his head in disgust at me.

22. I do not think God likes me much. He does not show up very often.

Any person living with the above beliefs is going to have tremendous fear in his or her life. The whole system is ba5B4sed on judgment, fear, punishment, and not being good enough. It is structured on conditional love with strings attached to behavior. It would be difficult to find happiness under this system. The constant pressure from judgment alone would cause dis-ease to settle in the body. These beliefs stifle personal growth, imagination, and creativity. There is no foundation for self-worth to grow and develop.

As you review your list and discern the nature of your current belief system, remember that it represents choice. If it does not reflect what you desire, discard it. Let your imagination go and create a new belief system. Make a new list of what such a belief system could look like. Perhaps, it would look like this:

An Example of an Ideal Belief System

1. My God lives within me. I am part of God and God is part of me.

2. God has no gender, but is the essence of all things.

3. There is no right or wrong, good or bad, no punishment. There is a karmic balancing, consistent and founded in divine unconditional love.

4. I have complete choice in my behaviors without being judged.

5. God is love-unconditional-and this love is the basis of the universe. God loves all.

6. There is no right or wrong way to believe. All religions lead to the center, which is God.

7. Heaven is not a place that you go to; it is an attitude of the divine. Live and experience heaven in the now.

8. God is availab979le to me in all circumstances. I am never without God. God is part of me.

9. I have full responsibility, as a co-creator with God, for all that I AM and all that is around me.

10. I am honored and revered in the universe.

11. I am a spirit having an earth experience. It is one of many experiences in the universe. My soul's purpose on earth is to experience emotion.

12. I choose my life experience, like an actor choosing a script in a play. I choose everything about my living conditions for the divine purpose of my soul's unfolding.

13. All of my prayers are answered. My job as co-creator is to be clear with my intention so that my prayers can manifest.

14. There is abundance for all in the universe. If I have abundance in my life, it does not mean that someone else must go without.

15. I believe in miracles!

16. I am part of an exquisite whole. I am related to all life. I belong.

17. Angels can fly because they take things lightly.

A person with the above belief system is going to have a completely different outlook on life. Self-worth, self-empowerment, choice, unconditional love, honor, balance, and freedom will be reflected throughout the life of this individual. What one believes, becomes.

Jan promotes self-healing, empowerment, better communities, a healthy world and conducts workshops in shamanism & journeying. Her book, Becoming Yourself is at http://www.janengelssmith.com . Jans a Licensed Counselor. Shes done over two thousand soul retrievals. She is the founder of LightSong School of Shamanic Studies, a Chemical Dependency Specialist, and Marriage Therapist. Shes a water pourer for sweat lodge, a minister, a Reiki Master.

Buddhism And Eastern Teaching

How to Say "I Love You" With Meaning

I love you are three words all children need to hear often from their parents. Do you want those words to have real meaning to your child? Do you want them to connect one heart to another? Do you want to use these words to develop a level of intimacy in your family that communicates your heartfelt affection for your children? If so, consider strengthening I love you with the following suggestions.

1.) Use eye contact. Give your children your eyes when you say, I love you. Souls touch when meaningful eye contact is made during moments of intimacy. Touch with your eyes. Its a way of connecting that helps you bond.

2.) Touch. A pat on the back, a hug, or a high-five will add meaning to verbal expressions of love. So will a slight squeeze of the shoulder or a kiss. Take your childs hand in yours when you say, I love you, and add a tactile component to your words.

3.) Use names. The sweetest sound in any language is the sound of your own name. Names get our attention and build connectedness. Sadly, some children only hear their own names when they are in trouble. (William, you better get in here!) Add your childs name to your expression of love. I love you, Carlos, or Shingo, I really love you. Watch their reactions. Their facial expressions will encourage you to continue the practice of adding your childs name to I love you.

4.) Use the words son and daughter. These two words can add intense intimacy to your verbal expressions of love. I love you, son or I love you, daughter will create an emotion-filled statement that will invite an equally emotional response. Monitor your personal comfort level as you use these two important words. Notice your feelings as you say5B4 them, as well as the reaction you get from your children.

5.) Add nonverbal signals to your spoken message. Smile, wink, and add pleasant facial expressions to your words. Make sure the message on your face is congruent with the one coming out of your mouth.

6.) Do not use the word when as part of your vocal communication of love. I love you when you smile like that or When you choose that happy mood, I love you sends a message to your children that your love is conditional. What children often hear is I only love you when. To love unconditionally, say I love you without any condition attached.

7.) Remove the word but from your description of love. I love you, but. is usually followed by a concern, problem, or frustration. When we express our love along with a concern, we send a mixed message. When we do this, children get confused and conclude that the love part is a manipulation intended to soften them up before the real message is delivered.

8.) Add because you are loveable to your manner of expressing love. I love you because you are loveable is an important concept for children to learn. It helps them understand that your love is attached to no specific condition. It simply is. Be careful not to add any other words after because. I love you because you are thoughtful adds a condition that communicates conditional love. The only acceptable phrase to use with b581ecause is because you are loveable.

9.) Say I love you at unexpected times. Children often hear our expressions of love at familiar times. We typically say I love you when we are going out the door on our way to work. We say it when we end a phone conversation. I love you is often the last communication our children hear as we tuck them into bed at night. I love you at those times is often expected and certainly anticipated. To heighten the impact of these three valuable words, use them at unexpected times. Say them in the middle of a meal, as you are driving down the road in your car, or as you stand at the kitchen sink doing dishes together.

Some children are auditory and need to hear the words I love you. Others are tactile and need to be touched to feel loved. Still others are visual and need to see love on your face and in your actions. Why not give your children all three variations when you communicate your love?

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: 305http://www.personalpowerpress.com

Aristotle

Understanding the Causes of Drug Addiction - A New Definition

What is Addiction?A New Definition of Addiction Most people associate the word addiction with alcohol or drugs, but that association severely and inappropriately limits the extent of addiction in our society. A new definition of addiction is needed, one which will give us a better grasp of the nature of addiction and will enable us to approach its treatment in a far more productive way.

Addiction is the compulsive use of any substance, person, feeling, or behavior with a relative disregard of the potentially negative social, psychological, and physical consequences.

This definition of addiction creates a much broaderand more accuratepicture of addiction, which we will demonstrate in much greater detail throughout the remainder of this article. Before we can meaningfully continue our discussion of addiction, however, we must first consider its causes in a new way.

What are the causes of addiction?

Despite all the research done on this subject, there is no consensus on the cause of addiction. Some theories have been proposed, however:

• Genetic: We are born with a genetic predisposition to addiction.
• Bio-chemical: There is a chemical imbalance in the nervous system that makes us moB68re susceptible to addiction.
• Mental illness: Addicts have a kind of mental illness.

Regardless of the specific cause espoused, most experts regard addiction as a disease, and many believe its inherited. They believe that people inherit the tendency to addiction, even if they never actually become addicted to a specific substance.

A New and Powerful Explanation for Addiction

I have now worked intimately with thousands of addicts, and propose a cause for addiction that is radically different from those generally discussed. This proposal explains the overall data of addiction better than other theories do, and this proposed cause has allowed the development of a treatment plan that has proven to be very effective with thousands of addicts.

Addiction is not a disease. Addiction is a response to pain.

After extensive interviews with thousands of addicts, I have seen less than one percent of them fail to respond enthusiastically to this definition of addiction and the clarification of the causes of drug addiction, whereas most of them have had serious problems with the usual definitions and explanations.

In order to understand the cause of drug addiction, we must first understand what is required for human beings to be happy, a subject sorely neglected in mental health research and literature. We tend to usually focus our attention to an inappropriate degree 5B4 on illness and on the treatment of disease. We all understand that physical health requires more than simply the elimination of disease. In order to be physically healthy, we must also attend to positive qualities and behaviorsnutrition, exercise, shelter, and so on. In a similar way, mental health requires that we attend to the acquisition and maintenance of positive required elements, not just the elimination of negative factors, or disease.

The most important requirement for our emotional health and happiness is to feel loved. Our souls require 5B4 feeling loved in just as real a way as our bodies require air and food. We need to feel cared for and to feel connected to other human beings. Theres a reason that such a huge portion of our novels and movies take love as a theme. Love is a basic human need.

Real Love

But not just any kind of love will do. The only kind of love that can fill us up and make us whole emotionally is Real Love.

Real Love is caring about the happiness of another person without any thought for what we might get for ourselves.

Its also Real Love when other people care about our happiness unconditionally. With Real Love, people are not disappointed or angry when we make our foolish mistakes, when we dont do what they want, or even when we inconvenience them personally.

When I use the word happiness, I do not mean the brief and superficial pleasure that comes from money, sex, power, and the conditional approval we earn from others when w5B4e behave as they want. Nor do I mean the temporary feeling of satisfaction we experience in the absence of immediate conflict or disaster. Real happiness is not the feeling we get from being entertained or making people do what we want. Its a profound and lasting sense of peace and fulfillment that deeply satisfies and enlarges the soul. It doesnt go away when circumstances are difficult. It survives and even grows during hardship and struggle. True happiness is our entire reason to live, and it can only be obtained as we find Real Love and share it with others. With Real Love, nothing else matters; without it, nothing else is enough.

Conditional Love

Sadly, few of us have sufficiently received or given Real Love. From the time we were small children, we observed that when we didnt fight with our sisters, didnt make too much noise in the car, got good grades, and were otherwise obedient and cooperative, our parents 5B4 and others smiled at us, patted our heads, and spoke kindly. With their words and behavior, they told us what good boys and girls we were, and we felt loved.

But what happened when we did fight with our sisters, made too much noise, got bad grades, and dragged mud across the clean living room carpet? Did people smile at us then or speak gentle, loving words? Nothey frowned, sighed with disappointment, and often spoke in harsh tones. Just as the positive behaviors of other people communicated to us that we were loved, we could interpret the withdrawal of those behaviors only as an indication that we were not being loved. Although it was unintentional, our parents and others taught us this terrible message: When youre good, I love you, but when youre not, I dontor certainly I love you a great deal less.

This conditional love can give us brief moments of satisfaction, but were still left with a huge hole in our souls, because only 5B4 Real Love can make us genuinely happy. When someone is genuinely concerned about our happiness, we feel connected to that person. We feel included in his or her life, and in that instant we are no longer alone. Each moment of unconditional acceptance creates a living thread to the person who accepts us, and these threads weave a powerful bond that fills us with a gRevenuine and lasting happiness. Nothing but Real Love can do that. In addition, when we know that even one person loves us unconditionally, we feel 5B4 a connection to everyone else. We feel included in the family of all mankind, of which that one person is a part.

Without sufficient Real Love, we can only feel empty and alone, which is our greatest fear and source of pain.

The world is literally dying from a lack of the one thing essential for our happinessReal Love. We spend our entire lives trying to replace that unconditional love with praise, power, sex, money, entertainment, safety, and so on. But it never works, and the resulting emptiness and fear are almost too much to bear.

We dont have to live like this anymore. Greg Baer and RealLove.com are teaching (1) the real cause of fear and anger and (2) how to find this Real Love that replaces the fear, anger, and conflict in our lives with peace, confidence, and genuine happiness.

Dr. Greg Baer is the author of 16 books, DVDs, and CDstwo of which are internationally published by Penguin Putnam Groupand has presented the life-changing message of Real Love to hundreds of thousands of people all over the world.

For more information on Real Love, inc2C8luding hours of free streaming video and audio, visit http://www.RealLove.com Youll be grateful for the rest of your life that you took this step.

Zen Gardens Fountains

How to Not Change Your Spouse

Loving our spouse is giving them the freedom to be who it is they are. When we love without WANTING anything in return, that is when we have accepted our spouse for being who they are, faults and all.

This of course, doesnt include iniquitous behavior because if anyone is carrying on and regularly doing things in err against spouse or God, they certainly are not being the person they were meant to be. Therefore, this article does not apply to them.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change!

Love is an option; we select the degree of love and what kind of love we will give to our spouse through our actions. Love can sometimes be confusing and misleading, especially if couples are going through trials and tribulations in their marriage and are demanding of one another.

We think that if we could change our spouse, well suddenly be happy and contented with our self. We try and change our spouse because we have stopped accepting them for who they are. Therefore, we cannot seem to love them either.

Pretty soon, we begin to place nasty conditions on the love we give to our spouse. If their faults irritate us bad enough we might not give ANY love at all. Sound familiar?

With no love left to give to our spouse, we might think we have nothing in common anymore? Who knows, maybe we begin to think we married the wrong person? Suppose the person we met last week at work is better than our spouse? Pretty soon we have brainwashed our self into believing our feelings.

No wonder more than half of all marriages end in divorce!

How about, God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change!

Couples waste so much of their time and energy trying to change each other. But is that really what needs to be done?

Marriage gurus think they have all the ans11DCwers, and self help books goat and challenge couples to try and change for each other. But most of these people are divorced too! So what gives?

How a bout a little bit of acceptance! It works wonders.

Really, we just need to try and not let those little things bother us. Even some of the bigger things we can detach from. Forgive. Turn the other cheek. Do these things even when you dont want to! Communicate the issue. Let your spouse know what bothers you, but dont make it into a tirade.

Dont scream and yell at them about how bad they are, instead find something positive to say about them. Make them feel good about them self. Thats what works!!

What about, Ill scratch your back, if you scratch mine. This is good in marriage. There is nothing wrong with the give and take type rapport with each other. In fact, this is essentially how couples love each other.

No one can ever love unconditionally, without demands, bargains or expectations, never. You know why? Because were just human, we err, and we have faults.

We need to accept that and move on with our life; hopefully that moving on includes our spouse.

The "give and take" process is a natural occurrence; it is instinctive to do something nice for our spouse because they have done something nice for us. We give and take all day long with most of our interaction in our daily lives; its part of life.

Most marriages work in this fashion; it is a good way for marriage to flourish and grow. It keeps couples on their toes as far as remembering to give of themselves periodically to their spouse EVEN when they dont want to. That is love.

Now, there is a big difference when we put ultimatums on the table. Dishing out ultimatums is more of a nasty conditional love and is based on selfish thinking and usually stems from one or both spouses harboring resentment. "I'll love you, only if you will stop going out with your friends", etc.

This is not love, but a selfish person trying to get their way through manipulation and ultimatums!

Most marriages can be salvaged. We have to stop THINKING we can change our spouse. We really just need to try a little bit harder. Let those things go that we cant do anything about, and stop feeling resentful can make a big impact on the marriage.

Allow your spouse the freedom to just BE. Accept your spouse! Love!

Love is created by a person and not just is. Love takes action to accomplish. The value of the love we give to our spouse is based on how we are feeling at any given moment and time.

If we feel resentment or bitterness towards those we love, we'll inevitably love with resentment and bitterness, which is one way we place nasty conditions on our love.

We don't have to listen to those feelings of bitterness.

"What is generated into our heart comes out in our actions".

Loving someone in the real sense of the word is allowing him or her to be who it is they are. When we learn to play the give and take game fairly is when can accept the person we are married to.

Bottom line, accept your spouse for who they are, give to your spouse without wanting anything in return, and it will eventually be given back to you.

This is how to not change your spouse. Acceptance Is LOVE.

Angie Lewis, author of new release, Journey on the Roads Less Traveled

http://www.spiritual.journeybooks.4t.com/

ISBN 1413788904

Available Amazon and any online bookstore.

Angie Lewis is writer for online marriage ministry.

http://www.heavenministries.com/

Spiritual Atheism

People Pleasing - What It Takes To Say No

We are often tra5B4ined to become people pleasers during the first few years of our lives. If you do what Daddy wants, Daddy might play with you. If you do well at school, Mommy might smile. Whenever children dare to say no, they are quickly taught the consequences. However, when we spend our childhood surrounded by conditional love, we learn to only love ourselves conditionally. In order to take back your life, you need to get comfortable saying no again; and saying no is always uncomfortable unless you have something else to which you are giving an overwhelming yes...

People always used to call me and ask, "What you doing?' To which I would answer, "Not much." Inevitably I would find myself drawn into their plans. I'd be going to parties I didn't want to attend, helping with other people's problems rather than dealing with my own, and wasting time that I couldn't afford. Now I've learned to change my answer, thereby taking back my life.

Whenever people ask me, "What you doing?" I have a list of a dozen things I am doing.

I'm working on my writing.
I'm taking a well-earned week off and not answering my phone.
I'm planting my garden.
I'm rereading my favorite book.
I'm planning my financial future.
I'm writing a mission statement and deciding how I want to live my life.
I'm learning to budget the time I have.
I'm learning to put first things first.

I find the results of my responses interesting. Many5B4 of the people who used to call me for favors have simply stopped calling me. They know that I am too busy navigating the life that I have chosen. Even better, many of the people who used to call me for favors, have begun calling me to simply say, "Hey, how've you been doing? We haven't talked in a while, and I've missed you. That event you're doing sounds interesting. How can I help?"

In order to say "no" to what is not important in this increasingly fast paced world, we need to begin saying "yes" to what is important. In order to do that, we need to ask consciously ask ourselves, "What future actions will most improve the quality of our lives, and how can we commit ourselves to those actions before wasting our energy on anything else?"

If you need help getting started, visit http://www.navigatinglife.org where you will find a free fourteen week on-line course, based upon A River Worth Riding: Fourteen Weeks for Navigating Life, which can help you steer through the roughest waters, as well as an on-line life coach available to answer your questions.

Lynn Marie Sager has toured over two-dozen countries and worked on three continents. Author of A River Worth Riding: Fourteen Rules for Navigating Life, Lynn currently lives in California; where 46Dshe fills her time with private coaching, public speaking, and teaching for the LACCD and Pierce College. She runs the Navigating Life website, where she offers free assistance to readers who wish to incorporate the rules of worthwhile living into their lives. To read more about how you can use these rules to improve your life, visit Lynn's website at http://www.navigatinglife.org

Legendary Magic Carpet

The Core of the Soul - The Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Soulful Love Part Two

Gifting & Receiving Absoulute Love

For some of the souls here on this earth dimension, we are able to gift Absoulute Love what we perceive as easily to other souls. Spirit says that there are moments in which we perceive we are gifting Absoulute Love but it is in the form of the disguise of conditions, or expectations of how we think other souls should be. This form of gifting is that of conditional love, whereby if the soul acts or is being within how we think they should be within our perception, then we gift that soul love. If they are being something other than what we deem in our perception that they are "supposed to" be, then we attempt to provide the illusion of "withholding" our love.

For the souls whom have remembered, embraced, and treasured this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, then this Abso5B4ulute Love is an constant flowing resonance that they choose to BE in, a way of BEing, a way of LIFE. Receiving and giving are One in the co~creative forces of the Universe and of LIFE. It is from this sense of 6ratitude that we are in Ah! Or Awe! with, for, and of LIFE when we are resonating in a resonance of Absoulute Love. When we are within this ambiance of Absoulute Love that it is seamlessly, effortlessly flowing from within our soul to other souls to the Universe and then comes again to us in a continuous circle or cycle of Absoulute Love.

For the souls whom live in the perception of an axiom that Absoulute Love was free from ever being shown to them in their lives here on this earth dimension, these souls choose The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" of choosing the illusion of "withholding" their Absoulute Love. I should know this phenomenon quite well, as I once chose to BE this soul. The illusionary reason that I chose to reside within the illusion of "withholding" gifting Absoulute Love was because I felt that I was unworthy of receiving it, and if I was unworthy of receiving it, then why should anyone else receive it, especially from me. This was what I believed within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole" when I chose to live in the illusion that I was separate, disconnected from every soul, from everything.

As Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, there was a moment i5B4n my Life Experience here where I 'decided' or cut off all possibility of Absoulute Love in my LIFE. As a part of the game of LIFE, I 'decided' while resonating within The Ego Self of the Soul "Rabbit Hole", that I was 'not good enough or worthy enough' to receive Absoulute Love. For me, this occurred when I was six earth dimensional years old. When I was six earth dimensional years old, I was a great speller of the earth dimension's English language and had won the spelling bee at school. I came home with a certificate saying I won and my mother was very proud of me and happy and she said "You should show this to your father when he gets home".

Now as an adult, spiritually speaking, I recognize in this moment that my father is the type of person that when he comes home, his form of meditation to wind down from what he considers to be a 'long day at work' is to sit down in front of the T.V. in his favorite chair, read the mail, and just veg out, as his form of meditation. But as a six year old, whom had been on this earth dimension for such as short amount of what we call as earth dimension time, I was free from knowing and understanding this wisdom, as coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from, we are free from this concept as all is inclusively One sense of inner wisdom and this is who I was choosing to BE as a six year old having been fr5B4ee from discovering and embracing completely the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul. So when I came running into the room just after dad had come home that earth dimensional night and was in his chair looking at the mail with his meditative focus on that, and me waving my certificate around, he was free from even ever acknowledging me. It was then and there in that moment that I realized the earth dimensional duality Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate, that said I was 'not good enough' ~ not good enough to receive his Absoulute Love, and therefore, I must not be worthy of receiving any Absoulute Love. From that moment on I set out in my life to "prove" that I was 'not good enough'.

Therefore, when events would occur to bring forth a Soul Remembering, such as the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love through events such as kids picking on me at school or this soul would not play with me or be my friend, rather than choose to remember, embrace, and treasure the Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience, I would experience the thoughtenergy to myself of (and some moments in an Ego Fit Rabbit Hole tantrum out loud) "SEE! Look at what THEY did, SEE I am not good enough, see they will not be my friend or they pick on me etc..." Later in life it was with Aaron who was then my boyfriend, when we were physically separated when I became pregnant with our son Chris and he was in the illusion 5B4of believing that he was free from being ready to be a father, again rather than remember, embrace, and treasure, this Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love, it was "See I am not good enough, he left me".

Thus, from the moment of being that six year old, I began to prove over and over again within The Ego Self of The Soul perceiving myself as separate from in Absoulute Love and from All That Is, that I was 'not good enough'. For many earth dimensional years I became quite skilled at playing the role of the illusionary victim and seeking out other souls to bring with me into The Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole that I was choosing to create. In fact, I became so good at it that I had a friendship with a soul at one moment in my LIFE in which, our sole or Soul Purpose for being friends, our Soul Purpose for being brought together was for us to spend money and to sit while our children played together and have Ego Self of the Soul Rabbit Hole fits about our perception of how horrible our husbands were and how horrible life is and so on! In essence, for many earth dimension years I was living my life as a six year old!

It was when I went through a weekend spiritual seminar that began the five year earth dimension period of what we call here as the initiation of Ascended Mastery or Spiritual Oneness, in which I would choose to remember continuously many Soul Rememberings Through Life Experience that would gif5B4t to me the rememberings of the soul for who I am BEing in this moment.

The Illusion That We Are Separate From Absoulute Love

Spirit shares with us that we somehow fear and believe that we are "unworthy enough" to receive Absoulute Love and it is this axiom within the soul that we seem to choose to call our own, as we hold onto this axiom as if it is ours that we are unconscious to that keeps us from knowing, experiencing, gifting, and receiving Absoulute Love which is why events occur in our LIFE, to awaken and re~awaken us to remember the Soul Rememberings that we have chosen to forget as a part of playing this game of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience).

It is within the believing in this axiom of "I am unworthy of Absoulute Love" Spirit imparts, that has us create a perceptional illusion of proving over and over again that we are unworthy. So just as who I once was choosing unconsciously to BE, we seek out relationships and events to prove that illusion of The Ego Self of the Soul that says that we are indeed separate from every soul, separate from All That Is, and unworthy of Absoulute Love. It is that we somehow believe that we are something other than always, in All Ways connected that causes us to experience the illusionary perceived e~motional disconnection, which is what then causes the illusional e~motional discontent or dis~ease, a being free from BEing at ease within, to occur.

The Infinitely Sp5B4iritual Light BEing shares with us that the reason that we experience the e~motion at moments like we are encased in a shell in our LIFE is because we feel that somehow we are disconnected from other souls and disconnected from All That Is, from the Universal Source that we came from and emanate from, which creates an illusion that we have a disconnection within us, with our soul. It is just that mere illusion that we are somehow other than The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is that we are and emanate from and that we are disconnected and unloved, that keeps us experiencing the e~motion that we are something other than connected. And it is our choice to stay in the illusion of disconnection that keeps us from being connected, from being All That Is or to step into and BE what we already and always, In All Ways, are ~ Spiritual Oneness and Absoulute Love.

BEing Absoulute Love

How do we shift this? How do we come to a resonance of Absoulute Love? As Spirit invited us earlier, they share that it is through 6ratitude that we are Absoulute Love. However, in being in 6ratitude within an illusionary 'seeking out' Absoulute Love in this way, Spirit says we tend to look outward for Absoulute Love rather than inward. Thus in this shifting into a resonance of Absoulute Love, the shift comes from within. It is seeing ourselves as worthy, valuable, Absoulutely Loveable (Loveable meani5B4ng able to be Absoulute Love) within our soul. We are worthy of relationships that genuinely honor the light of who we are. We deserve all of the wonder and the awe of All That Is in the Universal for this Life Experience.

Why do we deserve this? Why does Absoulute Love exist? Because this is the very essence of who we and emanate from. Because we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, therefore we are free from BEing anything other than Absoulute Love. This Absoulute Love for our soul is free from resonating within a resonance of The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving itself as separate and in Axiom with that Absoulute Love of our soul is somehow selfish or conceited. It comes from an inner wisdom in knowing that we are all Divine BEings coming from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love and is of, for, with, in and BEing Divine Absoulute Love.

How can we BE this? The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing brings forth the wisdom that it is within the enlightenment that shows us that since we emanate from The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resi5B4des within Absoulute Love and we are The Pure Consciousness of the Cosmic Infinite Circle of the Universal Source of All That Is which resides within Absoulute Love, then how can we be anything other than already and always, In All Ways, connected to Spirit and receiving their guidance clearly, and how can we be anything other than Absoulute Love? Spirit invites us to BE that of who we are, BE Absoulute Love ~ BE ever presently seeing the beauty and the Absoulute Love within us and let it shine from within us just like a beacon of light from a lighthouse.

Appreciate how wonderfully beautiful you are, as you are an expression of the Divine light. Breathe this in, take a deep breath in and feel this message fill your soul, your spirit. Feel the beautiful light of who you are as it flows from just about a foot above the diadem or crown of the head, all the way through the physical body to the feet, and then all the way to your heart center which is where the soul resides and then encircling your aura. Truly know with a deep sense of inner knowing, inner wisdom and truly feel with the feeling that comes from the very depth of your soul, getting in touch with every part of your soul remembering that of what your soul already does know and is within infinite all inclusive wisdom of but has chosen to forget in coming here to play this game called LIFE ~ that free from any shred of doubt, free from any hesitation, that you are a radiant 5B4Beacon of Infinite Light and Absoulute Love, an expression of Divine Absoulute Love, Infinite Light, and Beauty, and that you are All That Is.

Spirit invites us to nurture the spiritual child within us, the spiritual child of our soul. They say that within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love that the reason that we may experience the illusion of having trouble embracing our own inner spiritual child with Absoulute Love is that we in The Ego Self of the Soul create the illusion of fear, that we somehow fear the bliss that comes from BEing Absoulute Love. That we fear that we can BE, gift, and receive Absoulute Love and that if we are to take that one step, just that one step into Spiritual Oneness, stepping into and gifting that Absoulute Love to our inner child of our soul, that our light will come beaming through, and that it is the Infinitely Spiritual Soul BEing of Light that we are that we are illusionally fearful of.

Within The Ego Self of the Soul perceiving ourselves as separate our deepest fear is free from being that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are ambrosial beyond measure. It is our light, rather than The Ego Self of the Soul that we perceive that frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, All wise and all knowing, talented, and magnificent?" Actually, why are we free from BEing so? We are an inner child of the Spiritual Oneness of All That Is. We will b5B4e free from serving and gifting the Universe, all within the Universe, and all within this earth dimension by playing the game of BEing small.

Enlightened we are free from living in the illusion of shrinking our spirit, shrinking our soul, so that other souls will be free from experiencing the e~motion of BEing insecure around us .We are all meant to shine, just as children do. We are born to co~create the awe~inspiring beauty of Absoulute Love, of All That Is that is within us, simply because this is who we are. This is why we chose to incarnate here ~ to experience, to gift, to receive, to remember that of the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Absoulute Love. Spirit or Divine Consciousness dwells within our soul. It is the essence of LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) and we always, in All Ways, have an unbroken lifeline to the Universal Source of which we emanate from, regardless of how small or dim that connection we may perceive it within The Ego Self of the Soul as separate to illusionarily be.

Would we ask a flower to be something other than a flower? A flower is a flower because this is what is, a flower. We are free from being able to ask it or make it be a tree or a mountain. And if we understand this, then we can understand that who we are is an Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all. And who are we to ask or pretend to5B4 be something that we are free from being? This is that of the hypnocrite that Spirit write of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Choice, that of attempting to be something we are free from being. Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing of Infinite Absoulute Love in Spiritual Oneness with all, of all, in all and for all is free from being just within some of us; it is within every soul. And as we let our own light shine, we consciously gift other souls the gift of choosing to BE the same. As we are liberated from our own illusionary fears blending The Ego Self of the Soul into the Whole of our Soul, into Spiritual Oneness, our presence automatically liberates other souls with whom we touch, move, and inspire by and with our inner light.

It is when we choose the choice to know within our inner wisdom that we are worthy of receiving Absoulute Love that then the channel is opened and we see, feel, and BE Absoulute Love within the infinite forms as it reveals itself to us, as the illusion that we are disconnected and unable to receive has then fallen away, leaving us with the connection to Spirit to All That Is, to the pure joy and bliss of Absoulute Love.

Spirit invites us then to choose that we are good enough and we are worthy to receive their guidance and to receive Absoulute Love simply because we have taken a view of all other possibilities and choose then that we are worthy of spirits guidance and Absoulute L5B4ove, because we are All That Is, because we come from All That Is. And if we come from All That Is, then how can we be anything less than worthy of receiving Absoulute Love from Spirit and from all the plethora of forms it comes in. We are worthy of Absoulute Love because we are Absoulute Love.Absoulute Love is inviting you to experience all that this Absoulute Love has in store for you. Do you accept love's invitation? We hope you do.

Gifting, Receiving, and BEing Absoulute Love calls us to open our heart and LIFE to all the gifts waiting for us that this Absoulute Love has to gift. It gifts us with the treasure of Infinite Soulful Bliss and Spiritual Oneness. Thank you for receiving the Absoulute Love of the Universe so generously in this moment. Welcome to the heart of the soul of Absoulute Love. Life is an experience, free from being about arriving at a destination. So too, is Absoulute Love a journey, free from being about arriving at destination, as we already are Absoulute Love.

The Shift So Deep

I can remember one of the more recent axiomal shifts that occurred for me about four earth dimension years ago now. There is a man by the name of Steve Rother, and he channels Spirit in what he calls The Group. I was listening to one of his channels and on came this song. A woman began singing this song and I felt as though every word that this woman was singing was meant for me. The words to her song touched me so deep5B4ly that I began to sob. It was the confirmation for me that the inner child in me was healing and that I indeed was free from being alone and that I am loved and I am Absoulute Love. It was the initiation that I would later come to know through Spirit into what we call here on this earth dimension as Ascended Mastery which I completed this circle of in the Spring of 2005.

The money that I would manifest to purchase the CD was free from being available to me at that moment as I had been free from choosing to manifest it. However, I was gifted with the messages from Spirit that I would know when I would be meant to have this CD and to manifest the funds to bring it forth into my LIFE. So I carried the copy of this song's sample on my computer with me for the last several earth dimensional years now and have referred to it often as a reminder of its beautiful words and of the messages that I received within it and from it. Then it began playing in my soul over and over until I heard it within and was free from needing the CD. It was amazing then and yet another confirmation from Spirit when Aaron had said this very thing about a favorite music CD of his. I had borrowed this CD to place it on my computer so I could listen to it too (as I like the CD as well) and so that he could keep the CD in his car with him while I would still have it on my computer to listen to. I had been busy and had forgotten to place it on my computer, thus th5B4e CD sat in our room for several days. When I said to Aaron that I had forgotten to do this yet and did he just wish to have the CD back anyhow that I could do it at a later moment, to which he said, "It is ok Hon, whenever you get it back to me is fine, as I hear the song within me, within my soul always so if the CD is elsewhere, I still have it within".

It was just recently when the healing of the inner child through Spiritual Imagination and Inspiration that Spirit writes of within the Soul Remembering Through Life Experience in Inspiration, which became the topic of our ongoing spiritual circle that we have weekly in our spiritual center that I remembered Spirits guidance that I would know when I was meant to purchase the CD of this song that I so fell in Absoulute Love with a few earth dimensional years before that had shifted me and the axioms of who I believed I was, that it was indeed the moment to obtain this and share it with the circle. Hence, I did purchase the CD then and the money was instantly there for me to and we utilized them in our spiritual circle. The healing, the beauty, and the shift in axiomal alignment that transpired that evening from just playing this one song was the most amazing transformation I have ever experience aside from my own. This woman's spiritual gift of singing of these words transcends anything here on this earth dimension, and I thank her from the bottom of my soul for the amazing gift5B4 she shares with all of us souls in assisting us to R.E.S.T. (Remember, Embrace, and Soulfully Treasure) within the light of who we are. She truly inspires me. Her name is Shaina Noll, and the song that she sings that I am referring to is her rendition of the song entitled "How Can Anyone?"

This song is such as simple song, so few in its words, but its meaning is so inspirational that it touches, it moves, and it inspires all who listen to it. It brings a healing of the inner child and also a resonance of AbSOULute soulful Oneness Love from the very core of the soul within you. I invite you to go to Shaina's website to hear the words to this beautiful song. Any soul who would like to listen to the song sample of this song "How Can Anyone?" or any of her other beautiful music, can listen by visiting her website: http://www.shainanoll.com/songsamplepages/songsamples.html and scroll down about half way down the page to the Songs for the Inner Child CD song samples on the left side and click on the "How Could Anyone?" title. Shaina's CD Songs for the Inner Child, that "How Can Anyone?" is on, as well as her other CD's can be discovered for purchase as well on this webpage or by visiting her homepage at http://www.shainanoll.com

Spirit says that what keeps the creative energies of axiomal alignment for expanded consciousness, increased awareness, and spiritual oneness alive, is an appreciative openness to receive followed by som5A4e soulful response to this receiving. As long as there is a continued openness to receiving all of the gifts that the Universe has to offer us, the gifts keep flowing, or we could say that the gifts keep gifting. They say that some moments it takes a powerful event such as the one I just shared here with you, or what we perceive on this earth dimension to be the illusion of something "bad" such as a loss of a home, or a soul whom transitions back home to the Spiritual Universe for us to get to that point where we are touched, moved, and inspired into the shifting of our axioms. Spirit refers to this as a spiritual 2 x 4. Spirit shares that these events when seen through the eyes of the soul, through the eyes of Spiritual Oneness, are just simply gifts that are gifted to us to remember the light of whom we are.

The Infinitely Spiritual Light BEing also refers to the Prayer of St. Francis in which it is said that it is within gifting that we receive. Therefore, Spirit asks us what thoughtenergy, what axioms are we gifting to our soul and to the experience of this LIFE that we are choosing? In what areas of our LIFE (Living Infinitely From Experience) are we choosing in each moment to shift into axiomal alignment with our soul? What step will we take to open the door to Infinite Possibilities? The Infinite Circle begins with us. It is our choice. Do you choose AbSOULUte soulful Love always, in all ways?

Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD, is a universally celebrated author, speaker, and spiritual mentor within the resonance of Spiritual Oneness. She is currently the author of two books, "Life Long Learning ~ Transforming Learning; Discovering Learning Through Living Life in Unlimitless Possibilities" and "Stepping Into Spiritual Oneness ~ Spiritual Rememberings of the Soul Through Life Experience"; and has appeared on various radio shows and within articles of international publications. She is a Spiritual Medium, Visionary, and has been gifted by Spirit as an Ascended Master. As a clear conduit of the Divine, Patti channels the wisdom of Spirit within Multi~Dimensional ways to inspire each soul to develop their own inner voice of the soul of who they are and brings the gifts of Infinite Healing, AbSOULute Love or Soulful Love, Light, and Peace to all whom she inspires. Dr. Patti "Diamondlady" Diamond, DD is the Director of The Diamondlight International Spiritual Oneness Center and also creator of the OneSoul REALationship Series. For more information about her please visit her website at http://www.diamondlady.net

Our minds shape our surroundings

Love, Anger and Forgiveness - How To Let Go And Be Emotionally Free Once And For All

Anger and forgiveness seem to be opposites, and in many ways they are. You may be surprised to learn, however, that they have a lot in common. If you make anger the "bad guy," you just won't get to the forgiving part. Anger has to be fully understood and released before you get to move on to the freedom of forgiveness. Forgiveness has to be 16D0fully understood before you can let go of resentments and be emotionally whole and free.

It all starts with love. We are born with the need to love and be loved, and no one, even the best parents, can meet that need perfectly. Therefore we all feel hurt as a natural part of life. And of course, there are those hurts that are inflicted by abuse, abandonment and neglect, in some cases extreme.

From this pain, fear and anger naturally emerge. It makes perfect sense to be angry when you're hurt. Anger is an important place to visit, you just don't want to live there. Here is where forgiveness comes in. Forgiveness is the process of letting go of anger and resentment so that you can go on with your life. Forgiveness is for you, not for the forgiven. That is essential to understand.

Anger and forgiveness seem opposite, in the sense that anger involves an intense focus on the "wrongdoer," and forgiveness involves shifting focus off of that person and moving on with your life. Yet there are some ways that anger and forgiveness are the same.

How Anger and Forgiveness Are The Same

Unhealthy anger and premature forgiveness both include:

-Judgment

-The "one-up" position

-Dishonoring to yourself

When you are angry at someone and blaming them, you are definitely judging them and putting yourself in a "one-up" position. The way you are dishonoring yourself here is that you are failing to look at your own creative responsibility in the situation. This is the hazard of the "blame game." When you are into blaming others for your feelings, situation or plight, you are making yourself a victim and denying your own power and responsibility.

Premature forgiveness is forgiving someone when you're not through being angry. You are still judging them, and therefore you're seeing yourself as "one-up." You are dishonoring yourself by pretending to forgive in your mind, when your heart and gut are still carrying anger and resentment.

Here are some important truths to remember when you're angry:

-The other person is responsible for his/her actions that triggered your anger. You are not responsible for their behavior.

-You are responsible for your emotional reaction and for your actions that result from your emotional reaction. They are not responsible for your emotional reactions or your behavior that results.

Here are some other ways that anger and forgiveness are the same. When anger is healthy, and forgiveness is authentic, both involve:

-Power

-Release

-Letting go

-No more victim position

-Operating in a container of love

Both healthy anger and true forgiveness involve the power of healthy release and letting go, which takes you out of the victim position. This can only occur in a container of love. Anger can only be healthy when accompanied by some degree of love and wisdom, and forgiveness can only be true when it is based on love for yourself and/or another person.

Understanding Anger

Anger is the most misunderstood emotion. Most people just think it is bad. Here are some common misconceptions:

-Anger is a bad emotion and should always be controlled

-It is possible to be without anger completely

-It is wrong to be angry

-To be angry means to be out of control

-Anger is the same thing as aggression

-When a person is angry that means they are not safe to be around

These misconceptions result from the lack of understanding of healthy anger. Healthy anger is:

-A feeling you have when you're threatened or opposed

-A protective emotion

-Powerful energy that can be used for positive outcomes

-Fuel for effective action

Have you ever taken action about something that made you angry? Think about MADD, Mothers Against Drunk Drivers. They got mad, and took action in healthy, appropriate ways to resolve the problem leading to their pain and anger. Here's the bottom line on healthy anger:

Healthy anger fuels effective action!

Understanding True Forgiveness

True forgiveness is something that only your body can do. Surprised by that? Here's the deal. Anger and resentments are held in the body as well as the mind, and your mind can decide to forgive long before your body is ready. Literally, your body has a mind of its own. Here are some things to understand about forgiveness:

-Forgiveness is not just a decision that you can make in your mind

-Forgiveness requires an emotional and physical release to be complete

-Your body is capable of holding onto anger long after your mind thinks it has forgiven

-Forgiveness does not absolve the wrongdoeryou dont have that kind of power

-Withholding forgiveness does not hold the wrongdoer accountableeveryone is accountable whether you forgive or not

-Forgiving doesn't mean you have decided that what the wrongdoer did is okay

-You don't have to wait for the wrongdoer to change for you to forgive

-You won't be able to forgive until you have fully examined the depth and extent of your wounds

-You won't be able to forgive until you have acknowledged the full depths of your anger

-Forgiveness is for you

-Forgiveness is good for your health

-Forgiveness allows you to be more loving and joyful

You will know that you have forgiven when your body is relaxed and your breathing is deep and easywhile you visualize the wrongdoer and say, "I accept you for who you are, with all of your best and worst. I no longer need you to change. I forgive you for myself, so that I can be free. I forgive you so that I can let go of resentments and feel love and joy in my heart, mind and body."

Your body will tell you if the forg584iveness is complete.

Keys to Emotional Health and Freedom

-Take responsibility for your actions and emotions

-Do not accept blame for anything

-Place responsibility for others' actions and emotions on them

-Do not blame anybody for anything

Here are some thoughts to consider about love:

-Love can be intoxicating, and therefore can lead to unhealthy decisions

-The need to love and be loved is the most powerful force in human nature

-Love is who you are in your spiritual essence

-Conditional love is not really loveit is more about control

-The only real love is unconditional love

-You will always remember those people in your life who have loved you unconditionally

-You are at your very best when you are experiencing unconditional love

Life starts with love. Anger is an inevitable emotion, which can temporarily or permanently take us away from love. When we work through our anger, we can forgive. Forgiveness is a return to love.

The greatest of these is love.

William G. DeFoore is a counselor, executive coach, speaker and president of the Institute for Personal and Professional Development. As the originator of the47EGoodfinding audio program, newsletter and website, he has also been on the faculty of the Wellness Program at Cooper Aerobics Center for fifteen years. He has 34 years of experience in helping people achieve healthy, happy relationships.

Get free information, watch videos and purchase books, CDs and downloads at http://www.Goodfinding.com.

Southern Buddhism

How to Say "I Love You" With Meaning

I love you are three words all children need to hear often from their parents. Do you want those words to have real meaning to your child? Do you want them to connect one heart to another? Do you want to use these words to develop a level of intimacy in your family that communicates your heartfelt affection for your children? If so, consider strengthening I love you with the following suggestions.

1.) Use eye contact. Give your children your eyes when you say, I love you. Souls touch when meaningful eye contact is made during moments of intimacy. Touch with your eyes. Its a way of connecting that helps you bond.

2.) Touch. A pat on the back, a hug, or a high-five will add meaning to verbal expressions of love. So will a slight squeeze of the shoulder or a kiss. Take your childs hand in yours when you say, I love you, and add a tactile component to your words.

3.) Use names. The sweetest sound in any language is the sound of your own name. Names get our attention and build connectedness. Sadly, some children only hear their own names when they are in trouble. (William, you better get in here!) Add your childs name to your expression of love. I love you, Carlos, or Shingo, I really love you. Watch their reactions. Their facial expressions will encourage you to continue the practice of adding your childs name to I love you.

4.) Use the words son and daughter. These two words can add intense intimacy to your verbal expressions of love. I love you, son or I love you, daughter will create an emotion-filled statement that will invite an equally emotional response. Monitor your personal comfort level as you use these two important words. Notice your feelings as you say5B4 them, as well as the reaction you get from your children.

5.) Add nonverbal signals to your spoken message. Smile, wink, and add pleasant facial expressions to your words. Make sure the message on your face is congruent with the one coming out of your mouth.

6.) Do not use the word when as part of your vocal communication of love. I love you when you smile like that or When you choose that happy mood, I love you sends a message to your children that your love is conditional. What children often hear is I only love you when. To love unconditionally, say I love you without any condition attached.

7.) Remove the word but from your description of love. I love you, but. is usually followed by a concern, problem, or frustration. When we express our love along with a concern, we send a mixed message. When we do this, children get confused and conclude that the love part is a manipulation intended to soften them up before the real message is delivered.

8.) Add because you are loveable to your manner of expressing love. I love you because you are loveable is an important concept for children to learn. It helps them understand that your love is attached to no specific condition. It simply is. Be careful not to add any other words after because. I love you because you are thoughtful adds a condition that communicates conditional love. The only acceptable phrase to use with b581ecause is because you are loveable.

9.) Say I love you at unexpected times. Children often hear our expressions of love at familiar times. We typically say I love you when we are going out the door on our way to work. We say it when we end a phone conversation. I love you is often the last communication our children hear as we tuck them into bed at night. I love you at those times is often expected and certainly anticipated. To heighten the impact of these three valuable words, use them at unexpected times. Say them in the middle of a meal, as you are driving down the road in your car, or as you stand at the kitchen sink doing dishes together.

Some children are auditory and need to hear the words I love you. Others are tactile and need to be touched to feel loved. Still others are visual and need to see love on your face and in your actions. Why not give your children all three variations when you communicate your love?

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: 305http://www.personalpowerpress.com

Acquiring Knowledge

How to Say "I Love You" With Meaning

I love you are three words all children need to hear often from their parents. Do you want those words to have real meaning to your child? Do you want them to connect one heart to another? Do you want to use these words to develop a level of intimacy in your family that communicates your heartfelt affection for B68your children? If so, consider strengthening I love you with the following suggestions.

1.) Use eye contact. Give your children your eyes when you say, I love you. Souls touch when meaningful eye contact is made during moments of intimacy. Touch with your eyes. Its a way of connecting that helps you bond.

2.) Touch. A pat on the back, a hug, or a high-five will add meaning to verbal expressions of love. So will a slight squeeze of the shoulder or a kiss. Take your childs hand in yours when you say, I love you, and add a tactile component to your words.

3.) Use names. The sweetest sound in any language is the sound of your own name. Names get our attention and build connectedness. Sadly, some children only hear their own names when they are in trouble. (William, you better get in here!) Add your childs name to your expression of love. I love you, Carlos, or Shingo, I really love you. Watch their reactions. Their facial expressions will encourage you to continue the practice of adding your childs name to I love you.

4.) Use the words son and daughter. These two words can add intense intimacy to your verbal expressions of love. I love you, son or I love you, daughter will create an emotion-filled statement that will invite an equally emotional response. Monitor your personal comfort level as you use these two important words. Notice your feelings as you say them, as well as the reaction you get from your children.

5.) Add nonverbal signals to your spoken message. Smile, wink, and add pleasant facial expressions to your words. Make sure the message on your face is congruent with the one coming out of your mouth.

6.) Do not use the word when as part of your vocal communication of love. I love you when you smile like that or When you choose that happy mood, I love you sends a message to your children that your love is conditional. What children often hear is I only love you when. To love unconditionally, say I love you without any condition attached.

7.) Remove the word but from your description of love. I love you, but. is usually followed by a concern, problem, or frustration. When we express our love along with a concern, we send a mixed message. When we do this, children get confused and conclude that the love part is a manipulation intended to soften them up before the real message is delivered.

8.) Add because you are loveable to your manner of expressing love. I love you because you are loveable is an important concept for children to learn. It helps them understand that your love is attached to no specific condition. It simply is. Be careful not to add any other words after because. I love you because you are thoughtful adds a condition that communicates conditional love. The only acceptable phrase to use with b16D0ecause is because you are loveable.

9.) Say I love you at unexpected times. Children often hear our expressions of love at familiar times. We typically say I love you when we are going out the door on our way to work. We say it when we end a phone conversation. I love you is often the last communication our children hear as we tuck them into bed at night. I love you at those times is often expected and certainly anticipated. To heighten the impact of these three valuable words, use them at unexpected times. Say them in the middle of a meal, as you are driving down the road in your car, or as you stand at the kitchen sink doing dishes together.

Some children are auditory and need to hear the words I love you. Others are tactile and need to be touched to feel loved. Still others are visual and need to see love on your face and in your actions. Why not give your children all three variations when you communicate your love?

Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller are the authors of The 10 Commitments: Parenting with Purpose. They are two of the world's foremost authorities on raising responsible, caring, confident children. To obtain more information about how they can help you or your group meet your parenting needs, visit their website today: http://www.personalpowerpress.com

Power Of Intention Dyer

Relationship Myths - Eight Examples That will Doom Your Relationship to Failure

Relationship myths are everywhere. There are more than I can count. The fairy tales that we believe create all sorts of problems in our real life relationships. Let's look at eight of the many relationship myths that will doom your relationship to failure:

1. All you need is love

This one is nice to believe. Love conquers all. Reality check: love is an essential ingredient in your relationship, but it is just one of many. A good relationship needs other ingredients, such as respect, appreciation, and the ability to negotiate when in conflict, to name a few.

2. If my partner loved me, s/he would _____________.

This statement is one of conditional love. It's also quite manipulative. Essentially, it's saying this: "If you loved me, you would do what I want; you would even know what I want without my having to tell you." Wow, that's quite a heavy expectation from someone you love.

Does it work the other way around (If I loved my partner, I would ______________)? Not usually. Be careful. If you expect your partner to love you unconditionally, yet you have all these conditions for you to give love your partner, you are creating an unequal, unfair, and deeply unhappy relationship.

3. Love means never having to say you're sorry

Yes, the movie "Love Story" gave us that line. If you don't say "I'm sorry" when you've done something offensive, what does that say about you? Are you too insecure to admit to causing offense? Are you telling your partner you are so above other mortals that you don't need to apologize?

Are you so angry at your partner that you believe s/he deserves what you did? I sincerely hope not. If this is a habit of yours, examine your beliefs about apologizing. They may need revising. Otherwise, you may be headed for loneliness.

4. If the sex is good, the relationship will be good too

Too many people consider a passionate sex life to mean they are compatible with their partner. They confuse passion with love. If that's all you've got, it's not enough to sustain a committed relationship.

5. If I don't say what I think/feel, I can't be happy in my relationship

What are we, in grade school? "If I don't get to express myself, I'm going to pout." I've had thoughts I would not want people to know about; we all have. Some thoughts, if voiced, can permanently damage a relationship.

I'm not telling you to stuff all of your feelings and never say what's on your mind. I'm asking you to be aware of how your words can impact your loved one. Ask yourself, "If my partner told me what I'm about to say, how would I feel?" Think first before you speak, then be tactful.

6. My partner is supposed to make me happy

Some people work really hard to make their partner happy, believing it is actually in their power to create happiness in another person. Others believe that their partner holds their happiness in the palm of his/her hands.

Sometimes people who believe this myth spend lots of time complaining to their partner and nagging their partner. Danger, danger! Creating happiness is your responsibility, not your partner's. You can do this when you work together to build a respectful, appreciative relationship.

7. My relationship would be great, if only my partner would change

Maybe so, but your partner's change is not in your control. You can threaten your partner, further damaging your relationship, or you can take responsibility for the only person whose behavior you can change: you. That's a big enough job, believe me!

8. A relationship should be 50/50

If you got 50% of the questions right on an exam, you would receive a failing grade. Is that acceptable? This statement becomes a scorekeeping issue. I'll wash half of the dishes or mow half of the lawn. I'll do my part, but only if he does his share. Again, control your own behavior and do your part. That's 100% of your part, not a failing grade of 50%.

For more tips and tools for attracting love and prosperity into your life, visit http://www.sanantoniorelationshipcoach.com For weekly tips and tools sign up for Michelle's free newsletter, Relationship Success, while you're there. You can also visit http://languageofrelating.blogspot.com and http://powerofgratitude.blogspot.com Michelle E. Vasquez is a Relationship Coach in San Antonio, Texas. She specializes in helping people attract the life they want and create the relationships that bring them joy. She is available for in office and phone coaching for individuals and couples who want to create more joy in their relationships.

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